Attention Is the New Alpha Trait

Everyone wants to look powerful these days. Some flex money, some flex outrage, others flex productivity: back-to-back zoom meetings, inboxes on fire, consistently closing deals.

But the real flex now is focus. In a world addicted to noise, the rarest strength is silence. The true alpha isn’t the loudest in the room; it’s the one who stays locked in when everyone else is fiddling on their phone.

I see it every day at the gym. Some are grinding out reps or miles; others are scrolling, posing, or yacking with colleagues on speakerphone. (don’t get me started on the latter group!)

Guess which gymgoers are actually getting results?

The Age of Constant Distraction

We’ve built a culture that rewards distraction. Scrolling passes for intellectual curiosity, and being busy is mistaken for being valuable. Every app on your phone is engineered to hijack your attention. The result? We’re over-stimulated, under-focused, and convinced it’s normal.

Cal Newport saw this train wreck years ago. The Georgetown professor behind Deep Work and Digital Minimalism doesn’t do social media, doesn’t chase likes, and still manages to move the needle. His entire philosophy is built on one idea: depth beats noise. Or as he puts it, doing fewer things, better, beats trying to do everything, faster.

That’s what attention really is – not intensity, but selection. The power to choose what deserves your focus and what gets cut.

As a Marketing and Communications specialist, I live on my computer. It’s part of the gig – research, writing, design, a dozen tabs open. But every so often, I wander into the internet’s swamp: comment sections. You know the ones. Trolls holding court like it’s their life calling.

One afternoon I ended up arguing with a flat-earther. Mid-sentence, I caught myself and thought, “Greater the fool who argues with a fool.” Then I laughed, shut the tab, and went back to building something useful.

From Dominance to Discipline

Old-school “alpha” energy was all about dominance. Command the room, talk louder, push harder. But that version burns out fast, and I don’t know about you, but I really don’t like these people. The new alpha doesn’t shout; they choose. Their power comes from control, not over others, but over themselves.

Steve Jobs nailed it when he said focus isn’t about saying yes, it’s about saying no to a thousand things. He guarded his attention like it was currency. That’s why his work felt so pure – it was distilled through a thousand noes.

The Quiet Masters

Keanu Reeves shows it in motion. Every John Wick film starts months before shooting, with him running drills at Taran Tactical. Real weapons, real repetition. No ego, no noise. Just quiet mastery through ridiculous levels of attention.

And then there’s Jocko Willink, the retired Navy SEAL who made “discipline equals freedom” a mantra. His 4:30 a.m. watch photos aren’t macho theatre, they’re a ritual. Same time, same rhythm, every day. It’s focus made visible.

That’s what separates loud people from lethal ones. Attention isn’t about how much you can juggle; it’s about what you refuse to let in.

Training Your Focus and Attention

So how do you build it? Not with another app or planner, but through practice:

• Single-task sprints: Set a timer for 45 minutes. Do one thing. Phone off, tabs closed. Your focus and attention will thank you.

• Input fasts: Drop one social platform or news feed for 30 days. Notice what fills the space.

• Ritualized boredom: Ten quiet minutes after your workout or coffee. No content, no scrolling – just let your brain reset.

Attention is like muscle tissue. It grows when challenged and tears when abused. Train it, rest it, protect it.

The Payoff: Focus Is Freedom

With age comes responsibility and noise. But mastery, in sport, art, or life, belongs to those who can hold focus when everyone else is flailing. It’s what turns repetition into rhythm and work into craft.

Next time someone tries to dominate the room, don’t out-shout them. Out-focus them. Because attention – calm, deliberate, unbroken – is the new alpha trait.

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Neil Moore is a communications specialist, freelance journalist, masters athlete, and family man who believes that excellence has no expiry date.

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